Be Who You Are

Cheers to being who you are!

The title of this post comes from a Sunday sermon, but I’m not here to impose Jesus upon you – although, what I’m about to say not only comes from who I am, but also from my spiritual heart.

Many of you know who I am to some degree – Biker chick (both Harley and bicycle); cat lover; animal lover; beer and chocolate taste-tester; lover of outdoors and all things Star Trek and NCIS; woman of faith; Christmas cookie baker; retiree; advocate of the disadvantaged.

That last one is something that has had me conflicted in recent years – the struggles facing people of color, of different faith, of different sexuality or anyone who is targeted by hate, fear and phobia.

Currently, Texas and Florida are placing my heart in despair and Christianity in question, along with children and adults in the LGBTQ community (and their parents) in harm’s way with laws that serve no one except for those who are homophobic, hateful, or don’t subscribe to the second commandment given to them by their God. In Florida, racism is standing in the way of teaching actual African-American history and also being targeted by lawmakers.

From the pits of hell, it feels as though this is the place where the anti “loving your neighbor” laws come from.

In creating laws that make it illegal to teach actual black history and keep children from being who they are, democracy and a free society are being threatened. Children and their parents are facing health and legal setbacks for no reason other than some people find their lifestyle “icky” or unforgivably sinful. Those lawmakers also cannot get past their racist ideologies or the embarrassment of the past.

In regard to the LGBTQ community and the recent laws either passed or about to be passed, consider this: Do states next make laws about whatever else makes them feel uncomfortable and willing to be judge and jury of humanity? Do they make it illegal to be Muslim or Buddhist or teach these religions in any format? Do they make it illegal for anyone to possess a book that teaches black history? Do they make it illegal for television or media to report any news they don’t first approve? Do they start banning TV programs that don’t fit into their box?

In a time when most of the world understands that we are in a fight for democracy, there are those who want to take it away from targeted groups of people. For no other reason than a soulless, judgmental position. It is akin to the days when black Americans were made to sit in the back of the bus and use separate bubblers and bathrooms. Is this what these lawmakers want…to move backwards in accepting an open, honest and loving society? How is it that anyone wants this kind of world?

We are all individuals, who have a right to be who we are as long as we are obeying laws and not harming others. We have a right to be Christian or Muslim, heterosexual or homosexual, left-handed or right-handed, cat lover or dog lover, Republican or Democrat, black or hispanic, blonde or purple-haired, teetotaler or beer drinker, home owner or apartment dweller, liberal or conservative.

What we don’t have a right to be is hateful, bigoted, racist or someone who uses their powers against individuals or certain groups of people. Humanity doesn’t allow for this type of behavior. My God doesn’t allow for this behavior. Dictionary definitions of humanity include being humane and benevolent, being part of this world’s community. In Christianity, one of our main commandments is to love people without restriction. I’ve written about this before, but I don’t believe it can be expressed loud enough. I have become tired and disgruntled over the misuse and skewing of Bible scripture to justify ugliness and I wonder if it will ever stop.

I realize this is a diatribe of sorts, but I decided to write how I am feeling rather than swearing at the awful news stories, tromping around the apartment in a huff or simply being brought to tears.

Why can’t we just leave each other alone so we can be who we are? Give each other “space” as a friend recently stated? Why must we pick on each other because we don’t live the same life? Who are we to be judge and jury when our neighbor is not breaking a law except for the one in our own biased and opinionated heads?

As I wrote in a recent Facebook post, “Perhaps we can turn the tide by always loving and accepting others, no matter what, without justification to the contrary. Perhaps we can stop being “right” all the time and start listening to our friends, family and neighbors with an open heart and clear mind. Perhaps we can simply be our messy selves without harming innocent people.”

I cannot judge the lawmakers and citizens who believe ostracizing and quieting a people’s truth is the right and moral way, lest I be just like them. However, I can hope and pray that the majority of humans in this country and on this planet are better than this, that they either take the second commandment as seriously as I do or that their hearts are softened with love and understanding.

No matter who you are, stand humbly in your space and please be kind toward others always; be willing to make a positive difference in this world, one that could really use an overflowing wave of love and acceptance.

Cheers to being who you are, who we are, as one family.

24 responses to Be Who You Are

  1. quiall says:

    There is more about us that is the same than is different. We all bleed the same colour, we all feel fear, love, hunger, pride… the list is endless. ‘Judge not used lest ye too shall be judged.’

  2. Dan Antion says:

    It’s very sad to see laws that deny teaching our own history, or are designed to deny people access to information about themselves. Especially when, for some, without that information, suicide becomes an option.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      That’s it right there, Dan – the emotional cost to people when they are targeted. What these politicians are doing is sick and evil. They claim to be protecting their constituents, but they are only protecting their own twisted mindset. I hope that voters will wake up and demand better representation of ALL people.

  3. lois says:

    Mary–I live in Florida and these laws that the government is so proud of sicken me. DeSantis is a jackass who speaks for no one but himself. It is absolutely horrible what has become of this state. I don’t understand what he stands for, but I can tell you that he does not stand for a lot of people. God help the people in Florida and Texas.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Is it possible at all for DeSantos and Abbott to be voted out of office? Is it possible they have gone too far in their dehumanizing stances? I hope so for everyone in these states and in other places where lawmakers use their power to forward hateful and racist agendas.

      • lois says:

        We have elections coming up, but for some weird reason, DeSantis seems golden. I don’t get it, Mary. A lot of people don’t, but I guess more do.

      • bikerchick57 says:

        People are suffering from either cognitive dissonance or a form of brainwashing (politicians and a certain news station repeatedly beating their drums). I’m not sure what’s going to bring voters out of their haze and that is what worries me.

  4. John Hric says:

    At the rate the haters are going the law that we have to deny and hate ourselves cannot be far behind. However I much prefer your closing line Mary J.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      I also prefer being one family, John. That’s how it should be, yet the human condition seems to always fight against it. Perhaps one day, people can find a way to live together in peace and harmony.

  5. Ally Bean says:

    Yep. Well said. I’m not a fan of anyone who wants to ignore history or take away rights from targeted groups of people. There’s no good to be had in that.

  6. dweezer19 says:

    I agree Mary. As a society we seem to be digressing to a former time in our country’s history when there was little enlightenment and humans clung to old mores and beliefs based in fear. Texas government seeks a return to the Old West and Florida has just become a crazy making place. There is also a frightening sense of apathetic entitlement pervading a portion of the population that tells them to turn a blind eye and deaf ear to the pain and suffering in the world as though such situations could never be visited upon them. There is a saying that always keeps me from judgment and self righteousness. “There but for the grace of God go I.” For those non religious people it could be , “There but for the hand of fate go I.” My energy is heavy with the weight of the despair in our world at this time. Hugs, Mary. ❤️

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Yes to all of what you’ve said, Cheryl. I don’t understand the apathetic entitlement or the crazed and hateful laws the governments are willing to pass that hurt other human beings. I wonder where their compassion and souls have gone. God or fate might be the final judge, but I worry about what will happen in the meantime to this world.

      • dweezer19 says:

        It often occurs to me that we have an unrealistic expectation and relationship with our creators. This world was a gift and we were given stewardship over it. Humans love that sense of control until they become desperate or confused, then turning to blame something beyond themselves or beg the powers that be to intervene. A large segment of the population is seriously devolving at this point. Every day I pray for the light in all souls to prevail. 💔

      • bikerchick57 says:

        The light of goodness and love needs to be brighter and louder, to drown out the darkness, Cheryl. And people need to let go of their control, ego and fear.

  7. Gosh, I only got halfway through this and I had to go take a little break because my empathy and social justice nerves were fraying. Yes. Just yes to everything you just said. I’m glad you were able to say all these words because I often can’t find the right ones to express just how horrified I am at what has been happening.

    There’s been similar shenanigans here. Fortunately, while the bill passed the lower house, when 5 of the government’s own ministers crossed the floor to support added protections for LGBTQI+ people, they abandoned sending it to the Senate because they realised it would never get through. Mind you, goodness knows there was an awful lot of other more urgent legislation they could have been working on but we live in an era of performative politics. Nobody seems interested in actually governing for the good of the whole country but only in appeasing the base. I’m so over it.

    Sorry to add a rant but, boy, do I hear you.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Well, Heather, you should see me ranting at home, alone, in front of the TV. It’s not pretty, but I don’t know how to reconcile my emotions other than to write a post or rant to a like-minded friend. These are tough times for the human race and I feel horrible for the targeted groups and the victims of violence and war. There’s never a good reason to be cruel or more concerned about your own political life than the lives of others.

  8. JoAnna says:

    Thank you for being a voice of reason and compassion. It’s important that people know Christians who are accepting of differences. I keep thinking, “What would Jesus Do?” I think about his abundant love and acceptance.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Right, JoAnna. I often think of the story of the woman at the well, how Jesus was kind and forgiving toward her. He didn’t call her names, throw rocks at her, or try to ostracize her. No, he simply loved. Why can’t everyone focus on this love rather than so much hate?

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