Sober Silence

“Facebook and Twitter badgering isn’t going to serve us well today. Too much cheerleading on one side or the other and not enough sober silence.” ~Anonymous~ The quote is a telltale sign of our current social media climate. Of human relationships that are not purposefully silent or kind. It feels the norm of late, rather than the exception. Anger. Badgering. Disrespect. Name-calling. On media outlets that started as places for people to “connect,” make friends, share photos and laughs. And,Read more

Imperfect Relationship

“When you stop expecting people to be perfect, you can like them for who they are.”   ~Donald Miller~ Mom likes me. Her mind has accepted me as her sister or her friend or the nice lady that comes to visit and holds her hand. When I was younger, prior to the care of mom and dad as they lost their independence, mom had a critical side. She always felt the need to tell others what was wrong, rather than whatRead more

Speaking Out: Narcissism

Discover Challenge: Speak Out “Get inspired by those who speak out. Whether through blogging or marching, make your voice heard.” I remember when it hit me hard. Smack dab in the middle of the forehead. I had wondered for years… Why is he like this? What’s the matter with him? Why can’t he behave like a decent human being? On a day in 2009, I finally realized I had been living with a narcissist for almost 30 years. One withRead more

Jekyll And Hyde – Living With The Human Condition

Originally posted on Master of Something I'm Yet To Discover:
Have you ever wished you could excise the worst sides of yourself from your personality as easily as you might have a wart removed? Ever wished there was the neural equivalent of a plastic surgeon? “Doctor, I’d like a quick nip and tuck on my Talks Too Much.” “Doctor, can you give me a reduction on my overdeveloped Propensity To Be Resentful / Competitive / Rude?” We each have a…

Girlfriend Day!

I had a really wonderful Saturday with my girlfriend, Natasha. We started with pancakes, waffles and poached eggs. The coffee washed down our throats with the ease that comes from caffeine addiction. Natasha and I talked about plans for the day ahead and laughed, as we usually do, with a cup of silliness. Off to the grocery store next for water, protein bars, Ranier cherries and a bottle of Marco Negri (best sparkling Moscato ever). The protein bars and waterRead more

Driving Through a Hurricane

He ain’t feeling anything – my love, my hurt, or the sting of this rain. I’m driving through a hurricane. All he can say is ‘Man, ain’t it such a nice day.’ There was a time in my life when the words from Miranda Lambert’s “Dead Flowers” rang louder than an air raid siren. It was the last vestiges of my marriage, 30 years of matrimony coming to an ugly end. The hurricane was the anger, loss and exorbitant stressRead more

It Does Remind Me

A few weeks ago, I had a few moments to take in the surroundings from my desk at work. On most days, upon arriving at work, I turn on the computer, grab a cup of coffee, and get busy with emails and the paperwork at hand. I don’t always focus on what’s around me – the personal items that make this space a home away from home – because those items are always there. The lack of attention they receiveRead more