#WATWB: Fox Valley Memory Project

Fox Valley Memory Project As many of my readers know, my 97-year old mom has dementia and lives in assisted living. We have had quite the journey together with the various stages of dementia – watching the decline, keeping mom from being anxious and trying to have peaceful conversations. It is no wonder, then, that my heart lit up like a Christmas tree when I found out about the Fox Valley Memory Project in Appleton and surrounding communities. “The FoxRead more

She Wants to Go Home

I tell mom she’s 96 years old, but age is not registering in her mind. “I can’t be that old!” “Yes, mom,” I say to her gently, “You are 96.” She shakes her head in disbelief and responds with, “No, I’m not!” I ask mom how old she believes she is and the response, “In my seventies.” An aide attempts to confirm her age, but mom resists, and I eventually have to change the subject. This is how the conversations haveRead more

Origins: Reconnecting

That laugh! As I listened to it echo through the phone, the 22 years of a lost connection melted away. I instantly remembered a sound that I had long forgotten – it was the laughter of friendship. Later, as this friend and I met and hugged and reminisced at a local Starbucks, the fond memories of years past came flooding back…awash with shared meals and adult refreshment, a trip to Canada, card games, watching her children grow, and pondering whyRead more

Memory: June 1, 1976

In reading the title of this post, you may have one of the following thoughts in your head: I don’t remember this date, but it must hold some importance to the writer. I remember exactly where I was on this date and can tell you the color of socks I wore. I don’t remember this date because I was probably lost in a purple haze. I wasn’t born yet. Gosh, the writer is old. After a meeting in our officeRead more

Vivid Since 1948

Ardy and Ed’s has been a well-known landmark in Oshkosh, WI, since 1948. The vivid red drive-in is famous for its hamburgers, ice cream and waitresses on roller skates. They serve customers in their vehicles while 50’s and 60’s rock ‘n’ roll blares from the loudspeakers. I took mom there a couple of weeks ago to cap off an earlier lunch and ride through the city park. Mom enjoyed it immensely, so I plan to take her back soon. Perhaps tomorrow.Read more

The Melange Report: Two Birds

Birds are the most popular group in the animal kingdom. We feed them and tame them and think we know them. And yet they inhabit a world which is really rather mysterious. ~David Attenborough~ In an effort to save time and feed two birds with one worm, I present to you a non-mysterious update on mom and my sugar addiction. Update #1 Mom is awesome. After suffering a TIA last week Tuesday, she was bright, chatty and extremely alert whenRead more

A Memory With Mom: Unwanted

Author Andra Watkins has released her latest book, Not Without My Father: One Woman’s 444-mile Walk of the Natchez Trace, and is asking her fans, friends and followers to “make a memory.” You can read reviews of Andra’s book here and you can find details on how to make your own memory on her website, AndraWatkins.com. In a recent reply to a comment I posted on her site, Andra tells me that she wants to make a memory by celebrating mom’s daily enjoymentRead more