SoCS: Not Quite Forgotten

Frodo: “I wish the Ring had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.”
Gandalf: “So do all who live to see such times, but that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given to us.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings


The ring in the photo belonged to my godmother. When she passed away many years ago, her husband gave it to my mother who, in turn, gave the ring to me before I was married in 1980.

For 30 years, the diamond stayed on my ring finger, rarely being removed. Unfortunately (or probably fortunately), in 2010, I took the ring off when divorced and placed it in the silver seashell container you see in the photograph, shoving it into the back of a dresser drawer.

I rarely thought about the ring after that. Out of sight, out of mind, I suppose, but also a reminder of some painful days. It came to mind a few days ago while watching a character on TV present a replacement ring to his wife, so I guess the former wedding ring is not quite forgotten.

I could be like Frodo and wish that I had not been given the precious ring or married the person that I stayed with too long. But I believe that difficult times can form character, mold us into something better, give us a reason to spend time in better choices, with better people.

Gandalf is correct that it’s up to us to decide how we will spend our present time instead of ruing what has already happened.

I spent Friday afternoon walking, tangling with printer cartridges, and writing a post about a diamond ring. Today, I’ll be reading blog posts, doing laundry and perhaps making a batch of waffles – time spent that will not be exciting, but may be relaxing, clean and tasty.

The ring is back in the dresser drawer, where it will stay until Linda G. Hill decides to reuse the prompt in another five and a half years or I decide it’s time to bring it out again and remind myself that the last ten years has been time extremely well spent.


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Stream of Consciousness Saturday is the brainchild of author Linda G. Hill. Every Friday, Linda provides her followers with an inspiring blogger’s prompt. It can be a word or words and sometimes bonus points are involved (my favorite). Linda asks us to write without editing, other than correcting spelling errors.

Just go with the flow.

Like a babbling brook or rain drops. Click HERE if this type of writing floats your boat or helps with your decision-making. Your Friday prompt for Stream of Consciousness Saturday is “ring.” Use it as a noun, a verb, an adverb, or an adjective…use it any way you’d like. Have fun!

24 responses to SoCS: Not Quite Forgotten

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Yes it is, Beth. The ring will always be a reminder that I made the right decision in taking it off.

  1. ivor20 says:

    Like in the movie..
    The ring found its resting place
    Now your free to live at your pace

  2. Dan Antion says:

    Mmmmmm, waffles. Sorry, I was distracted. Everything we do/did goes into creating who we are. Find the good and carry on. The ring still carries the original love of your Godmother.

    I hope you enjoy your weekend.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Mmmmm, waffles and syrup… 😏
      It’s part of the good I have found in life, Dan, that keeps me going forward. My godmother was a very sweet lady, someone I will never forget.

  3. Laura says:

    Sometimes relaxing, clean, and tasty is exactly what we need to recharge. Hope you have a wonderful weekend.

  4. J-Dub says:

    Your post brings healing. Difficult times definitely build character and this year we’re all building a boatload. I’m taking it all in and getting an adjustment to my perspective which is bonus. Another mention of Lord of the Rings makes me want to read it to escape.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Oddly enough, this year has not felt as difficult as the months of the divorce. I believe it to be from healing and finding resilience and courage from the worst of it.

      This also made me think of reading or watching the trilogy…something to pass time on the coldest of winter days.

      • J-Dub says:

        Not odd at all. With each challenge we’re preparing even if not consciously for the more that will eventually come … or maybe? Whadda I know? Armchair psychology. Lol 🙂

  5. John Hric says:

    Good one. The ring, the place you are at, the waffles, and the choice of theme and movies to watch. Blessings.

  6. JoAnna says:

    An excellent quote. Gandalf is so wise. The beautiful seashell container will keep this ring special and safe with the best of the memories.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      The best of past memories and the fact that it came from my godmother are reasons why I keep the ring safe, JoAnna.

  7. murisopsis says:

    We tend to attach meaning to things -good or bad. It is difficult when the two are so tightly entwined that we are unable to let go or hold tight… Glad there are enough good memories attached that you have decided to keep the ring.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      I don’t think I would ever get rid of the ring. It will serve as a reminder of what was and what is my life.

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