Faithfully Home

Mom, left, with her sister Louise, circa 1940’s

 

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.

2 Timothy 4:7


Mom found her way home last Friday, February 15, 2019.

Home to her family of 15, home to her husband Evan, and home to her Savior, Jesus Christ.

It was time for the dementia to take a hike and for Pauline to feel freedom from her physical restraints.

Mom went peacefully in her sleep, a blessing that most of us desire when it’s our time.

Brother and I will say our final goodbyes on Saturday morning, surrounded by the love, comfort and support I have felt for the last week from family, friends, co-workers and church peeps.

I am so very thankful to the many aides, nurses, doctors, social workers and hospice staff that took care of her the last nine years. They are a special group of people who serve a higher purpose on earth, caring for the elderly, sick and dying.

It’s been an up-and-down week, one filled with memories, tears, laughter, support from friends and family, and a reason to eat lots of chocolate.

Considering mom’s former KitKat habit, I think she would approve of the latter.

For those of you who think this will be my last ever mom post, guess again.

There’s more to come as I have a life time of memories and more photos to share of the mom who I will always remember with love and a smile.

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51 responses to Faithfully Home

  1. A lovely tribute to your wonderful mother, Mary. Beautiful photographs. So sorry for your loss, and so full of awe at how positive you have been throughout.

  2. Dan Antion says:

    I am looking forward to those future posts, Mary. Your mother left you with an abundance of stories and lessons. I am sad for you today, but you were blessed, and I am sure you will process those memories and share some wonderful material with us.

    I’ll keep you in our prayers, and I’ll have a Kitkat on Saturday.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Have a KitKat and a beer, Dan. Mom also loved her adult refreshment!
      Thank you for the prayers and support this week…I’m doing okay today, waiting now for my brother and his gf to get here this afternoon.

  3. May your mother rest in peace, Mary. We cannot escape our grief, but may you and your loved ones find comfort in the joy she had brought to your lives ❤

  4. Judy Brekke says:

    Mary, grief for loved ones diminishes buy our love does not. the memories keep us strong. Mom has been gone nearly 19 years and Stephen 9 years. I continue to have thoughts and conversations in my mind with and of them. Cherish everything as it will keep you close. I wish I was in closer proximity to give you hugs of support and love. I will be with you tomorrow and always as your friend ❤

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Judy, I have often had conversations with dad since he passed in 2012. I imagine the same will be true with mom. Sending hugs and love to you always. 🧡

  5. Sam D.C.C. says:

    I lost my mom two years ago. I’m so sorry to hear this. I will look forward to the sharing of more memories!

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Sam, I’m sorry that you have gone through the same loss. I hope you have found joy in the memories. Thank you so much for your sympathy.

  6. Herman says:

    So sorry to read this sad and painful news about your mother. I hope you can find some comfort in the beautiful memories. Sending you lots of strength and hugs, my dear friend. You are in my thoughts.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Thanks for the kind words, Herman. I appreciate your hugs and although it’s a sad time, I am finding peace in those memories of mom.

  7. loisajay says:

    I could only see our post title on my phone at work, but I knew……Fly free, Pauline. Love and hugs to you, Mary.

  8. joey says:

    I wonder if the Kit-Kats on the other side taste even better, being limitless and all?
    I am so sorry for your loss and heartache. I am glad you will share lots of mom stories with us still. ❤ Peace to you.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      There are no KitKat calories on the other side. 🙂 Thank you for your peace and condolences, Joey.

  9. Shelley says:

    Aw, Mary, I’m sending you my thoughts and prayers. I know how this bittersweet ending feels. I’m glad to read she slept peacefully as she said goodbye to her and your family’s journey with dementia. You’re right, it won’t be your last post about how you feel about saying goodbye to Mom. Hugs to you, she was one lucky lady to have a daughter so dear as you!! xx

  10. Joanne Sisco says:

    I’m thinking of you this morning as you prepare to say your final good-bye. The truth is, I’ve learned that you aren’t really saying a final good-bye because over the next many years you will find yourself talking to her – almost as though she is there with you. We carry our moms in our hearts with us forever.

    I too am looking forward to the stories you have to share. It’s the best way I know to honour those who have gone ahead of us – to share their stories.

    Big hugs, Mary. I know your heart is filled with many happy memories. Those will comfort you in the roller coaster ride ahead ❤️

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Joanne, your words fill my heart. I’ve already been talking to mom and making sure to follow her advice this morning…wear color next to your face! Yes mom! Hugs and love…🧡🧡🧡

      • Joanne Sisco says:

        Yeah – my mom’s words seems to drift into my head at least once a day. It appears we were paying attention after all 🙂

      • bikerchick57 says:

        LOL, yes. Especially last night when my brother, his gf and I clinked our adult refreshment glasses together as a salute to mom.

  11. Oh wow Mary I am sorry if you posted this earlier and I missed it. I am so happy that she went in her sleep — so did mine, and perfect timing, just before what was coming down the pipe was going to hit. I don’t think to day will be a final goodbye. I’ve found many over the last three months, daily, especially as I go to send her my packets of KTLA stories about her hometown, or copies of my blog, with letters about the cats. I opened the box sent to me from the nursing home and there they were, bound up. And you know I am slowly drawing her things as I gift them. (((Huggs))) to you, have a kit-kat and a beer (I had a feeling when I read Dan’s piece) and I look forward to more memories.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Katie, I’m sending hugs back your way because I know losing your mom has been difficult in many ways. I’m taking a break right now, post funeral, to decompress a bit and then go have another adult refreshment with the brother and his girlfriend. However, I will not need a KitKat as I had one too many dessert bars at the luncheon. 🙂
      Love and hugs to you.

  12. dweezer19 says:

    While I am sorry for your loss Mary, I know your Mom had a long and wonderful life which leaves much to celebrate as you say goodbye. I look forward to your posts featuring this beautiful woman. Am I wrong in thinking you look like her?

    • bikerchick57 says:

      I have been told that I look like my mother…yes. However, I was the recipient of my father’s blue eyes.

      Mom did have a wonderfully long life and it was very cathartic to celebrate it this morning. I am tired, but am also starting to feel a release of stress and emotions from the last week and a half. It’s a good thing, something that will lead to the next chapter of my life.

  13. Peter Nena says:

    I’m sorry to hear about your mother’s passing. May her soul rest in peace and may she be in eternal love. You have done a nice tribute for her and may your prayers be heard. I shall keep you in my thoughts and prayers.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      Thank you so much, Peter. I have been so grateful for the love, support and prayers from everyone. God bless.

  14. marianallen says:

    Mary, I’m so sorry for your loss. HUGS! I know when I lost my mother, I was grateful for her release, but hurt and angry that she took Healthy Mom and Young Mom and Fun Mom with her when she went. Does that make sense? She’ll always be with me, but she’ll always be gone ahead.

    • bikerchick57 says:

      That makes perfect sense, Marian. I wish mom could have somehow made it to 99 without the vision and hearing loss and the dementia, but that was not to be. I could have been easily angered over it, but mom’s condition drew me closer to her and I believe that might have been God’s plan since we were not that close when I was younger. Today, I’m happy that the physical ailments have been released and her spirit is free to be joyful.

  15. JoAnna says:

    I’m very sorry for the loss of your mom but love your knowing her spirit is free. What a wonderful gift to her, you, and all of us, to share the memories of her life.

  16. Pam says:

    Mary, this brought tears to my eyes. Losing your mother is like
    losing years from yourself. May she rest in peace.

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